Hamenopi

We all struggle and to share just my 'highlight reel' or personal progression is disingenuous. So I'm going to do the painful thing and talk more about what hurt. Both before and during my journey. It wasn't easy. I'm not an overnight success of health. I struggled! But this is also a message of hope. Keep the faith and the storms will subside. You WILL come out the other side transformed like caterpillar to butterfly! I Used To Care... I used to care about many things but I realized they were all the wrong things to care about. There was nothing I could do to influence it anyway. At least... Not in a meaningful manner. So I stopped caring. I stopped caring about the distresses the media fed me. I became carefree. Or so I thought. I really became careless. Instead of living a relaxed life without anxiety, I lived a sloppy life full of fear. It it not a good life to live. You see not caring was even worse then caring for the wrong things. So I took a cha...

This is part of a series, the previous post is here . Overcoming F.E.A.R. False Evidence Appearing Real The issue now is How to Overcome Anxiety. In particular, I'm talking about the anxiety or F.E.A.R. of failure. Understand failing is just an event and failing doesn't make you a failure. Thank of it this way: You are an archer shooting at a target. If you miss the target, you failed to hit the target. It does not make you a failure at archery. That's why quivers have 20 arrows! Learn from your miss. If the arrow veered to the right, adjust to the left and try again. That's called adapting your strategy. Keep adapting your strategies until you find your mark and hit your target. From there, consistency is King. Just because you hit the target once doesn't mean every shot afterwards will hit! Falling Off The Wagon I think this is what gets people most people. They have a few good weeks, fall off the wagon and miss their mark a few days in a row. They then gi...

While losing weight I found something very peculiar. Not all weight I needed to shed was physical. Stay with me here. I was carrying around a lot of emotional baggage. I still thought negatively about myself. I still considered myself fat. I wasn't confident I could lose the weight. I didn't believe I could I could truly be healthy. Basically I was balancing a 10 ton bag of lies on my shoulders. The name of that bag was F.E.A.R. While fear is an emotional response to an actual threat, F.E.A.R is an emotion response to False Evidence Appearing Real. I think many of us struggle with this. F.E.A.R. is an illusion. there's no real threat of immediate danger. A tiger's not jumping out of the bushes to eat you. F.E.A.R. is just a horrible fairy tale we tell ourselves where we don't live happily ever after. F.E.A.R. is anxiety. It comes from our own perceived thoughts, not reality. And even though we can't always control our feelings, we can control how we respo...