Monday, October 24, 2016

Fighting Frustrations

I got frustrated last week because I wasn't as flexible as I wanted to be. I mean, it's only been 36 years of me trying not to stretch, why can't a perfect it in 2 weeks, right? Ridiculous, right? I laughed it off until I realize I do it all the time.

I remember, I spent years tying to perfect a way to quit smoking. Guess what? The right conditions never fell into place. The puzzle never solved itself for me.

Outside Half Priced Books, I scrambled to get far enough away from my 9 month boy, John to light a cigarette. When I did, he reached up his read to see where I was and what I was doing, then frowned a heartbreaking frown. It was that moment when the distance between where I was and where I wanted to be became too painful. there, I decided to take my first imperfect step to quit.

Guess what? I didn't get it right the first time. I stumbled and immediately reached again for a cigarette. Many times I did this on my imperfect journey quitting. But in the end, giving up was no longer an option for me.

Through pain I decided giving up was no longer an option. No matter how imperfectly I traveled toward my goal, I'd get there, somehow.

I also remember spending years trying to find perfect ways to lose weight. I've always been big, even in the army. Every weigh in, I skirted the cusp of obesity and military ineligibility. Of course, I constantly considered losing weight but figured not every way would work. What's more, it just wasn't worth my time unless I knew which way was right and had the time to commit to the action.

That recipe helped me pack on 100 pounds of fat. I also lost my libido as well as my general passion for the world. In the end, I chalked it all up as it's just who I was. But one day while sitting on a bench watching my kids run about, I decided to try something. Just one imperfect step towards healthier life. 5 minutes later, I stumbled, out of breath. But after the kids went to bed, I decided giving up was no longer an option for me. The pain between where I was. Me, a lazy, obese, a depressed shell of a person. And where I wanted to be, the coolest dad on face of this planet.

That distance was too painful for me to remain were I was. The pain got too great. After tucking the kids to bed, I started walking the block.

I remember that weekend, I got a bag of kale to try. After all, it's a super food and I wanted to become a super dad and a super husband It the nastiest thing I tasted! But there where lots of nutrients in it. It was, no doubt, better for me than the double serving of cinnamon toast crunch I slurped down each morning.

So I learned how to blend it with frozen blueberries to mask the taste. Later, I bought a nutribullet to mask the texture. It was worth it.

Now, instead of sugar crashing at 10 and starving by 11, I have natural energy into the 2 pm hour. Then, I enjoy a sizable nutritious lunch which is surprisingly pretty low in calories. That meal sails me right through the calm waters of the day until dinner. It also helped me drop 90 pounds in a year.

So yeah, I get frustrated. I get frustrated at the lack of immediate progress I make day to day. But that's not what real change is. It's about a consistent change applied over an amount of time.

Anything worth while costs time. What I'm saying is anything worth while takes a while. But someone spinning around every week lunging in new directions each time won't get far. Pick a direction and stick to it for some time. I recommend 6 weeks. Then look at your progress and adjust. Last off, be prepare to get uncomfortable. There's a pain in change but as I've said before, you only grow out of your comfort zone.

Friday, October 21, 2016

How Macarios lost 71 lbs

Recently in the Gamer for Weight Loss group, one member had a wonderful announcement to make. Originally at 340, Macarios is now at 269 pounds. That is amazing!

I just had to know what he did to accomplish such a feet. He provided 3 keys to his success. I want to share and comment on them here.

1. He Removed Junk Food From His House

It's so important to remove the negative temptations from your life where you can. You see, it takes willpower each and every time you actively resist temptation What's more, we all only have a certain amount of it.

Sure, it grows over time with practice but keeping junkfood around your house really stacks the conditions against you in an already difficult journey.

I mean, how much energy do you expend resisting surrounded?! You will burn out so quick. It's only so long most people can stare at a donut before it's down the gullet.

If you're a recovering mindless snack muncher like myself, try this instead. Keep highly nutritious, low caloric whole foods in the kitchen and make junk food hard to obtain. When snacking, don't bring the bag with you, make a serving, then put up the rest before you begin snacking.

That way, you have to go though extra steps to get a second helping. Maybe those extra steps will be enough to not chase seconds but hey, if you do, at least it's a cognitive, mindful choice instead of an mindless impulse.

Another thing, if you find yourself repeatedly compelled to buy junk food at the store, make sure you have a nutritious meal before you go out. It'll help you resist the urge. While there, consider listening to a soothing soundtrack while shopping. That way, if you are junk food triggered, the music can help calm you, enabling you to resist those urges and giving you permission to tell yourself no.

One more thing, when picking up groceries, when in doubt, leave it out. You can always go back to the store and pick it up later. This happened from time to time while discovering a diet that doesn't deprive you, but enables you toward your goals.

2. He Eats Only Chicken and Broccoli for Dinner

This is easy for some yet impossible for others, In the beginning of my weight loss journey, I tried meal prep and by day 3, I was sick of the same old thing. Of course, now I can go 5 days with no problems. My kids are even getting used to it. I called this being nutritiously boring in the past. It's a skill like everything else and I think it's a great skill if you really are serious in losing weight.,

It's also great for meal prep because you can fix 5 days worth of food for just a little bit longer than 1, then you have 4 days of freed time to do more, like game, play, or workout. Once I discovered how much more time I had prepping nutritiously boring meals, I fell in love.

3. He Works Out

Bodies are meant to move. So move. Even walking the block is a huge improvement from nothing. Prioritize a time to move. Still water breeds poison.

We know sitting for hours on end is bad for you Dedicate some time to move, Get up and stretch. Get the blood pumping and help flush the built up toxins. Combine that with drinking more water and you'll be well on your way to a healthier lifestyle.

What tips do you have for losing. I'd love to hear them. Let me know in the comments below and don't forget to subscribe or follow me to keep up with my personal progress. Thanks for reading this. Cheers!

Thursday, October 20, 2016


There is a point where an incline looks flat. Don't let it fool you into believing you are not making progress. The ratio for improvement can only go to far per skill set. After, it's severe diminishing returns.

Don't get frustrated at the apparent lack of progress. If you're putting in the work, somethings happening. Get transparent in your accounting, and find out exactly what that something is.

Have faith in the system. If you're changing strategies every week, you might be running around in circles. Dedicate 6 weeks to a plan and stick to it the best you can. Log your progress so you can see your improvements. Don't trust your memory to remember where you were day 1, day 7, etc. Write it down.

At the end of your time, review your progress. What worked, what didn't. The adapt your strategy for the next 6 weeks. Also stop looking to be perfect. Look to progress. Too many people try a body builder's routine and wonder why it's not working. Start simple. Two cokes a day to one coke a day is progress. Drinking one extra glass of water is progress.

In the end, these all make up the bricks of success. Build your success one brick at a time.

Wednesday, October 12, 2016

Make It Worth Your While

Anything worth doing is worth doing poor.

Anything worthwhile takes works and it takes a while.

Work With Your Worst

Work with what you have, but start now.

Start with your worst. Start with your most unprepared attempt. It's okay.

And it's okay if you don't make it. It's okay if you don't figure it out the first time.

Think About It

Did you quit after your first fall learning to walk?

Did you give up after your first time you wrote the alphabet wrong?

Did you quit after the first time you got the answer wrong learning math?

The point is, imperfect your path towards progress. Stop waiting for perfect conditions to start.

Do Something With It

I feel someone needs to hear this:

I know you're starved for time but you also hate the way you feel. Find 5 minutes. Do push ups on your knees. try for 10, take a break, try for 10, take a break.

I know you hear 5 minutes can't counteract sitting at your desk all day. And I know right now you can't help the fact you are stuck to your desk all day.

Take the 5 minutes and do something with them.

If the 5 minutes is all you have right now, that 5 minutes is enough! Take it, do something with it. Do something with it today.

What Does It Change?

I was there. I told myself, what's the point? It's only 5 minutes. I told myself it's only 10 minutes. I told myself it's only 30 minutes. I told myself it's only an hour. What can I do in a hour that will change me?

And I found out. 1 hour of doing nothing, changes nothing.

But 5 minutes of action, of making one change. Of doing one extra thing. Of replacing one worse habit for one better habit.

That changes everything.

Your Little While

Sometimes you may have only a little while. Remember to make that little while, worth your while.

And while you put in the work, write a record of it. It's worth it.

Because, when you're in the middle of working your while. You may miss the worth you are accumulating in those whiles you have worked.

But when you write down the work you worked in your whiles, you will discover your work has much worth. You will find it worth while.

You Are Worth It

Remember, You Are Worth It!

You are worth the work!

You are worth the wait!

You are worth the challenge before victory!

Now go. Imperfect your way toward progress.

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